Basic Assumptions of Emotional Intelligence
- Emotions contain important practical information about yourself and others. Managing this information is essential to personal well-being and to building relationships.
- Identifying assessing and expressing your emotions inappropriate ways and riches your experience.
- Acknowledging, empathizing with, and facilitating the emotional expression of yourself and others enhances your relationships.
- Emotions play out in your private life and public roles to produce well-being, leadership, and flow- the experience of focused Blissful expenditure of energy- or to result in distress, distraction, and being emotionally overwhelmed.
Deciphering the INFJ’s Emotional Intelligence: A Pearman Analysis
The INFJ personality type, known as “The Advocate”, is distinguished by its depth of intuition, empathy, and idealism. This post examines how INFJs navigate emotional intelligence in the framework of Roger Pearman’s “Introduction to Type and Emotional Intelligence: Pathways to Performance”, highlighting their unique interaction within the intrapersonal and interpersonal domains of EI, along with specialized EQ To-Dos for INFJs.
Pearman’s Approach to Emotional Intelligence: Pearman’s approach categorizes EI within the MBTI framework into:
- Intrapersonal Arena: This encompasses self-awareness, self-regulation, and motivation, focusing on one’s internal emotional landscape.
- Interpersonal Arena: This area involves empathy and social skills, essential for effective interaction and understanding of others’ emotions.
INFJ and the Intrapersonal Arena:
- Self-awareness: INFJs are highly introspective and often deeply aware of their inner emotional world.
- Self-regulation: They may experience intense emotions and thus need to develop strong mechanisms for emotional regulation.
- Motivation: INFJs are motivated by their values and the desire to make a meaningful difference.
INFJ and the Interpersonal Arena:
- Empathy: INFJs have a natural capacity for empathy, often intuitively understanding others’ feelings and perspectives.
- Social Skills: They tend to be compassionate and communicative but might need to ensure they don’t overextend themselves in caring for others.
EI To-Dos for INFJs:
- Set Emotional Boundaries: Learn to protect your emotional well-being by setting healthy boundaries with others. This will help you maintain your empathetic nature without overextending yourself.
- Practice Self-Care: Regularly engage in activities that replenish your emotional and mental energy. This could include mindfulness practices, creative hobbies, or spending time in nature.
- Develop Assertiveness: Work on expressing your needs and opinions clearly and confidently. Assertiveness training can help you articulate your thoughts without compromising your innate empathy.
- Embrace Practical Solutions: Balance your idealism with practical approaches to problem-solving. This involves recognizing the feasibility of your ideas and grounding them in realistic steps.
- Cultivate Resilience: Focus on building resilience to better handle life’s challenges and setbacks. This can involve developing a strong support network, learning coping strategies, and embracing a growth mindset that views challenges as opportunities for development.
Conclusion: For INFJs, known for their depth of intuition and empathy, these EQ To-Dos are designed to foster a well-rounded approach to emotional intelligence. By concentrating on these areas, INFJs can harness their natural strengths while also addressing areas that typically require more attention, leading to personal growth and improved relationships.
Introduction to Type and Emotional Intelligence: Pathways to Performance” by Roger Pearman is a comprehensive guide that bridges the gap between the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) and the concept of emotional intelligence (EI). Pearman’s work is pivotal in understanding how different personality types, as identified by the MBTI, can develop and utilize emotional intelligence in various aspects of life, including personal growth and professional performance.
Ken Meyer
Myers Briggs Master Practitioner and Retired Senior Career Coach at Eastern Michigan University
